5 Ways to Take Control of Your Life

Feel like you're in a rut, and that you should be doing something more with yourself...for your life?  Are you bored with the day to day routine of wake up, go to work, come home, and watch TV, only to start the cycle over again the next day?  Many of us have been there!  This means it's time to jump off the merry-go-round, and take back control of your life.  Get pep in your step, and reinvent yourself!  

These great tips were gathered from three experts, to help you start your journey to a new, fulfilled life!

Strengthen Your Weaknesses
According to Brenda Della Casa, Founder of Badass Living, Author of Cinderella Was a Liar, and blogger for Huffington Post and YourTango, "No one gets to adulthood without having packed a few bags and “issues” are usually traumas, fears and misconceptions that need to be addressed and sorted out. You could just continue to allow these things to impact your life, job and relationships negatively or you can choose to take a proactive approach. If you are finding that you’re needing a bit of help navigating through a situation, don’t be ashamed to reach out to a professional for a little help. A lot of people face depression, anxiety or just have a lot going on and don’t know how to handle it and find that talking to someone really helps them move through it. Doctors are doctors for a reason."

Brenda also suggests to:

Take Relationship Inventory
She says: "There is a saying that you become like the five people you hang out with most.  Think about the people in your life who get most of your time and attention.  How do they make you feel? How do they support you? Do you feel you can trust them? Count on them? If you have people in your life who bring you down (or worse, push you down) it’s time to do a bit of summer cleaning. Life is hard enough without having to deal with those who don’t have your best interests at heart."

This one reminds me a lot of the first tip: "disassociate from, and avoid negative people", in my previous article on 5 Secrets to Living a Happy and Stress-Free Life.  

Read more of Brenda's article here.

Learn How to Say "No"
Kathy Caprino, Women's Career Coach and Leadership Trainer at Ellia Communcations, author of

Breakdown, Breakthrough: The Professional Woman's Guide to Claiming a Life of Passion, Power, and Purpos

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 and Forbes Contributor, draws examples to share her advise on how to take control of your life: "Ann Vitale spent the better part of three decades saying yes to every request made of her. Lead a club, chair a board, join an organization—when anyone asked a favor, she always said yes. 'The trouble is, many times when you assume the mantle people expect you will continue to wear it year after year.' When she retired, she decided she would do all the things she had always wanted to do for herself. She thought about the things she had saved for later, for “as soon as…” But the requests didn’t stop. Until one day she had a revelation: 'I’d just said ‘No’ with no explanation. …Just ‘No.’ And surprisingly, I didn’t feel guilty about it.' Now Ann says 'yes' to herself. Yes to relaxing, yes to writing, yes to tending her flowerbed. And sometimes she still says yes to the favors, too, but only when she really wants to."

Be disciplined about your "me" Time
"Five days a week, from Tuesday to Saturday, Rebecca Hill dedicates all of her time and attention to her customers. Whether it’s sculpting someone’s arms or the perfect vacation, her two jobs—as a fitness instructor and a combination innkeeper and concierge—keep her on her toes. Sundays are devoted to 'pajama day' with her husband. And then on Mondays Rebecca takes time to pamper her most important customer: herself. Mondays are her 'My-days,' and she makes sure she spends them doing things that make her feel great. My-days give Rebecca the positive boost and recharge she needs to approach the rest of the week with the energy and enthusiasm."  Read more of Kathy's article here.

Shift Your Brilliance
In a Success.com article, Simon T. Bailey, CEO of Simon T. Bailey International, and author of Shift Your Brilliance; Harness the Power of You, INC., tells us "When I discovered the simple truth that I exist at this period in history to do one particular thing—to inspire, instill and infuse hope in other human beings—I stopped attempting to be like everyone else and decided to shift my thinking. I quit trying to find my way by mimicking others, and that’s when I found myself. I had lost me for a moment because I thought I had to say everything just right to make others like me because that’s what the experts said. They were wrong."  Learn more about what Simon says in this article.

Because life's short, the best time to start is NOW.  Even if a bit at a time, any step forward is towards your end goal.  Just be sure to enjoy the journey!

Thanks for reading. BeUtiful!

T. James-Sykes

  

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Capitalize on Your Gifts & Define Your Own Success (Entrepreneurship) - What Experts Don't Want You to Know

Do you have a passion to do something outside of your normal 9 to 5, but are afraid to go for it? Have you kept your talents locked away, because you don’t think others will find them important or “worthy”?  If so, you might find refuge in this little food for thought.

Gone are the days of measuring success solely by the position you hold, or the value of your liquid assets, and the “stuff” you’ve accumulated.

I define success as OPTIONS.  The amount of options we create for ourselves, the more successful we are.  This, in part, involves dusting off those hidden talents (most of us have a multitude of skills to draw from).  Or, learning something new!  Capitalize on your gifts, with multiple income streams, and feed your soul by doing what you're passionate about. 

The downward shift in the economy, along with the internet, has leveled the playing field more than ever.  Where else can you take a course, sell products, teach an online class, publish an eBook, get business cards, and advertise -- all with a starting fee of FREE? 

I'm not saying you have to quit your 9 to 5.  Use it, along with the multiple income streams that your talent and passion will generate to add to your OPTIONS "bank".  The many hats you wear with starting, and managing your small businesse(s) will add more gusto to your resume; you will have single handedly given yourself a promotion = more OPTIONS.  

Thanks for reading, and as always, stay Be U tiful!

By T. James-Sykes

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